Reiki Alchemy

Love Yourself First To Find True Love

There was some sweet magic in the air this morning and I felt called to ask The DragonFae for a message for all of us.

Self Love

From The Oracle of The DragonFae by Lucy Cavendish


The Lovers…Love each other…


“Know that when you draw this card, you are a beautiful being, worthy of bliss, romance and adoration…”


Yeah! Bring it on!


Whoever you attract into your life is a reflection of how you treat yourself. Looking back on past relationships I can see how each partner mirrored my own capacity to love myself at the time. It’s been so healing for me to recognize this and go to work on loving myself more instead of blaming ex-boyfriends for being assholes ;)


Recently I’ve been having an epic fairytale romance with an incredible human. How did I get so lucky to find such an honest, trustworthy, present, gentle, kind, respectful and gorgeous man?


It’s only possible for this to happen when you believe you are worthy of such a relationship. It comes as you acknowledge the love within you. Everything in life gets much better when you nurture this love and let it grow so you can eventually share it with another.


How can we open more to self love?


Start by developing a relationship with yourself and tend to it every day with beautiful moments of self loving. Here are some ideas from my own experience on this journey of heart healing:


Offer yourself Reiki as you wake up as a special gift to start the day right. End with hands on your heart and feel how loved you are.

Massage your body lovingly with delicious smelling coconut and essential oils. Don’t forget your breasts. They need a lot of love!

Stand in front of the mirror and honour your unique form in this life. Say “I love you” to all of you, especially the parts you have trouble liking. You only get to be in this particular body once.

Let yourself wake up gently and have slow mornings, asking yourself what you need most to feel cared for and honouring what comes up.

Buy yourself beautiful flowers

Treat yourself to a date in a special or fun place and enjoy your own company.

Remove the junk from your life. Ask yourself if what you’re about to take into your body or mind is nurturing or harmful. Don’t take this too seriously though. If you want to eat some junk sometimes, enjoy it!

Practice saying “No” more often. You don’t have to please anyone.


By offering yourself daily gestures of kindness that come from an authentic place of self love you will begin to attract true love into your life. You can only receive what you really believe you are worthy of receiving. If you’re already in a relationship, the way you love yourself tells your partner how you wish to be loved. It always starts with self love.


When you begin to love yourself more truly, the neediness of having someone else to replace what’s missing in your life falls away. The love for another becomes more and more unconditional as you recognize that true love is universal and already within you.


Don’t wait for a soul mate! Become your own greatest lover first and soon true love will find you. Don’t wait for your partner to fulfil you. Know you are worthy of the greatest love there is and witness how life responds as you shift your reality.

by Taryn with Love

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  • tarynw September 3, 2016, 5:49 pm

    Great to hear Archana! :) Xx

  • Archana.Vishwanath August 8, 2016, 6:48 pm

    Beautifully written dear!

    Self love is slowly coming in !

  • tarynw June 28, 2016, 5:25 pm

    What a great attitude happy you’re inspired..sending love Xx

  • Angela June 8, 2016, 1:30 am

    What a beautiful post, I lost my soul mate this year and can’t see me having love in my life again but I can start to love myself and see what the Universe has in store. Thank you. Blessings. X

  • tarynw May 29, 2016, 12:23 pm

    Hi Evelyn :) Thanks love, glad this meant something to you. You’re doing so well! Facing your fears and doing the work on yourself is so brave. Don’t give up! Much love to you Xx

  • Evelyn Chuter April 18, 2016, 11:33 am

    Hi Taryn, great topic! It’s one that I’ve always struggled with and I’m in the midst of working real hard on. Those are some good tips that I plan to start using. So thank you so much, beautiful Taryn! Hope your weekend was the best. Love ya! Evelyn